If there was one thing, or situation, or moment from your past you could do over, what would it be?
Friend, I have so many. Too many to name here.
But a few of mine are…
Making a better choice at a party in high school.
Not saying the words, “I hate you” to my mother when I was a teenager.
Having more patience with my aging parents.
As I’ve recalled and relived many of these what I refer to as “do-over moments,” I’ve experienced guilt, shame, embarrassment, heartache, sadness, and remorse. And, I’ve repented.
Yes, these “do-over moments” can be painful.
Yet, I believe good can come from our mess-ups too.
2 – When we can share our mess-ups humbly with another, we can hopefully save someone else from making the same mistake. Our lessons help others.
3 – Our mess-ups are a part of our story, and a part of who we are. It’s okay to learn from them and move on. We don’t need to stay stuck in condemnation.
4 – When we are vulnerable and open about the moments we aren’t so proud of, we become real and genuine in other’s eyes. We give others hope!
Most of my mistakes I’ve shared with my children when appropriate. They know many of the lessons I learned the hard way in my teenage years. And they’ve seen first-hand some of the ones I walked through as an adult.
I want my kids to not make the same mistakes I did. I want them to learn from my mess-ups, and to understand some of the consequences I’ve experienced because of them. I desire for them to make better choices and to help others in their lives to do the same.
They also know their mom isn’t perfect. They see I am real, just like them, and I have my own struggles, just like they do.
Yes, our mess-ups can do good.
And God can use them to grow us and to point others to Him.
If you might be hiding your mistakes, or kicking yourself because of them, I encourage you to step away from that behavior, to ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and move on. If you can, be open about them, and help others see more of you and your real story. You may encourage another to make a better choice next time.
I’m thankful we get to walk this road of life together… imperfectly and encouragingly. I’m thankful for you!
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