Can we talk? Can we be real and honest with each other for a moment or two?

Let’s be honest: how are we doing?

Friend, how are you today with all that has to do with COVID-19? How is your family? What is getting you through these days? What has been helping you, and what has been the biggest challenge so far? Also, what are you looking forward to? Since we can’t be together in person, we can still be together in other ways, like this. Let’s take some time to be honest and open with each other. Because that’s what friends do.

I’ll go first. And I’ll do my best to be real and honest, without using the typical phrases “I’m fine,” or “I’m okay,” or “I’m good.” Because sometimes during the day I’m not any of these. Sometimes I’m quite the opposite.

Let's Be Honest With Each Other: How Are We Doing?

How am I?

Well, I’m a mixture of thoughts and emotions. Of fear and faith. Of peace and panic. All ebb and flow within me often. One minute I’m strong as a rock, the next, I’m a pile of mashed potatoes. I find it all depends on what I’m focused on. When I’m focused on the news and the pandemic’s spread, I’m the potatoes. I can get very fearful. But when my focus is on truth and the hope I have in Jesus, then I’m more like a rock. It’s then I’m faithful. It’s not uncommon, however, for me to need to revisit my morning devotions later in the day to keep my head on straight. Can I also just say, I wan’t this all to end??!!

How is my family?

I guess you could say we are thankful. We’re thankful I can be home during this time, and thankful Bill’s job continues to demand his presence and expertise. His job is unique, and no one else does what he does, so he still travels to his office every day. Since our kids no longer live with us, they seem to be managing from what we can tell. All are still working and doing this adulting thing with excellence. (Great job, Lefes!) Zoom calls and texts keep us together. I sure miss seeing them in person, and I pray we all stay healthy!

What is getting me through/what is helping me?

Like I mentioned above, my faith in Jesus is what’s getting me though. So is my husband. He’s a preparer, so he has taken care of everything we need or might need. Seriously! What He does to provide for me on RAGBRAI, I see him doing in an even greater extent during these circumstances. He’s also the one who settles me when my emotions begin the climb of Mount Everest. Keeping myself active is also helping with exercise, my added job responsibilities, and home projects. Plus, my writing. My writing is what’s keeping me sane. I’m here pouring out words on my computer every day, maybe more for me than anyone else. But, nonetheless, it’s been helping and healing, and it keeps me focused on what’s good.

What has been my biggest challenge?

To be honest, my biggest challenge is staying home. I love my home, don’t get me wrong. But, I’m one who likes to have places to go and people to see. So stopping all of that–without much warning–has been my biggest challenge. I haven’t left home for nine days. Nine!! I can’t even type that without a twinge of disbelief! It’s also, however, been an unexpected gift. To be able to rest. To slow my pace. And to focus on ways to connect with others through my home (writing, Zoom calls, phone calls, snail mail, email, text). Just because I’m home doesn’t mean I can’t still be with people in other creative ways. We don’t have to stop being social as we practice social distancing, right?

What am I looking forward to?

I believe it’s important to have something to look forward to.

Happiness is pretty simple: someone to love, something to do, something to look forward to.

Rita Mae Brown

The honest thing is, though, I’m not sure I want to say what I’m looking forward to, in case it doesn’t happen. I’m one who doesn’t like to be let down. Who does? We just don’t know how long this pandemic will last, nor how long we’ll be facing these conditions. You know what I mean? But, I’ll share anyway. First of all, I’m looking forward to the day all of this is behind us. Secondly, I’m looking forward to biking season and getting back on our tandem. Thirdly, I’m looking forward to planting my flowers and seeing green grass. And, fourth, I’m also looking forward to family dinners again and watching our granddog, Freddie, race through our house with excitement. Oh, and there’s this concert in June at Busch Stadium, and a family vacation in September. I pray we’re able to do these!

Now, it’s your turn, friend.

How are you? How is your family? What is getting you through/what is helping you? What has been the biggest challenge? And, what are you looking forward to? Share any and all you’d like to in the comments below. It would give me great joy to hear from you.

Friends can be honest with each other. We can be real with one another. Thank you for being real with me. Please take care of you and yours. I’m praying for you today.

Much love,

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