After calming down, the desire to lash out left me.
Continuing from yesterday’s post, I have learned from experience my words usually aren’t profitable or helpful when I’m angrily upset. But after this roaring momma bear prayed and got a grip with my emotions, I was able to think rationally again.
I will always err on the side of protecting my children, no matter how old they are. I guess that was birthed in me the day I gave birth to them. As mothers, when one of our children hurts, we hurt, right?
When they hurt and we hurt, it’s sometimes necessary to step back and take a look at the big picture.
To ask God to show us what we might not see with our eyes.
I’m one who believes everything happens for a reason. I also believe God is sovereign, which means He has supreme power and authority and is in control of all things. So, if this particular experience (the one that got me so upset) arose in our family, God must have allowed it for His plans and purposes.
If we are upset, and we’ve taken it to God, if He wants us to do something about the situation, He’ll show us.
I won’t begin to count the many times I lashed out on my own in similar situations without His guidance. It grieves me to think of the moments I messed up in forging ahead with my raw emotions. I wonder how many situations would have turned out differently if I had given them to God first.
Sometimes we need to celebrate progress, even if it’s only one step in the right direction.
God showed me I was to keep my mouth shut (and this time I listened!).
But that isn’t the case in every situation. What if the opposite happens, and God wants us to act on our anger? Should we? Even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it’s hard?
By all means. Sometimes anger can be a good thing.
Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the devil that kind of foothold in your life. Ephesians 4:26-27 MSG
When God stirs within us to stand up, to speak out, to defend Him or another, He’ll allow our anger to be used for good.
righteous anger :: typically a reactive emotion of anger over mistreatment, insult, or malice. It is akin to what is called the sense of injustice.
The key is following God’s lead in what to do with that anger… to let it go or act on it.
A friend of mine recently was led to act on it, and to stand up for what she believed in. And she did it in love. She didn’t show up with raw emotions or irrational thinking. She was calm, humble, and kind. She’s not sure what the result will be from speaking out, but she can rest in knowing she was obedient in following through.
Sometimes obedience can be the lesson we learn from anger.
Friend, I’m praying for each of us to have ears to hear, eyes to see, and minds to discern what to do the next time we find ourselves angry and upset. And I pray we follow through in whatever direction we’re called to take it.
Much love to you today,