Living A Real Life Without Competing

by | Oct 12, 2017 | 31 Days Of Living A Real Life

I watched something extraordinary today as I attended my nephews’ high school cross country meet.

Sure, watching these boys run was incredible, and cheering them on was a whole lot of fun. Seeing them soar at something they enjoy was even better.

But, what touched me the most was standing at the finish line and hearing the words that came from these high school boys’ mouths. I heard nothing but encouragement extended to one another. I saw numerous pats on each other’s backs. And, I witnessed how compliments came after a few of exclaimed, “This was a PR (personal record) for me!” The kicker is, some of these came from members of opposing teams!

Encouragement. Compliments. Pats on the backs. From opposing teams. It was incredible. I thought to myself, this is what real life looks like. Yes, that is what real life looks like.

Life without competing against one another is real life.

Life without competing against one another is real life.

Oh, there was an entire 5K of competing, but instead of competing against each other, these young men were competing against themselves. They were competing against the clock. And, yes, there was a first, a second, a third (and so on) place finish, but that’s not what you heard about at the end of the race.

This inspired me so. Maybe because I desire my life to be like that. I desire our relationships to be like that. I desire our world to be like that. Where the only competing we do is with ourselves. To be better people than we were yesterday. For our faith to be bigger than it was yesterday. For our lives to impact more than they did yesterday.

If life is a competition, may it only be with ourselves.

And may we cheer each other on in the race. May we pat each other on the back. And may we always be about encouraging one another as we travel together.

Ah, what a difference we can make in this world as we live out our real lives!

Much love,



It’s Day 12 of 31 Days of Living A Real Life. Thanks for journeying with me! You can read the prior posts in this series here.

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  1. ordinarilyextraordinarymom

    As a high school track coach, I have attended many cross country meets, and I NEVER considered this aspect of the meet. I do, however, note that our distance team is the MOST supportive and close-knit out of all the areas of track and field. Their encouragement creates a bond that many times cannot be broken. What a wonderful observation you made here. How I wish we could see more of this in other arenas in the real-world.

    • Julie Lefebure

      I’m with you! I wish I could see more of this behavior in the world too. It impacted me so, I want to do better at this. Still processing it all. Thanks for stopping over and sharing! Bless you.

  2. Tara

    Moments like this seem to be a picture of what heaven looks like.

  3. Cindy Wilkins

    Life can certainly feel like a long distance race. We definitely need and need to be cheerleaders along the way! This was great, Julie!

    • Julie Lefebure

      Thanks, Cindy. Glad we can be cheerleaders to each other! Bless you!



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