Competition can be a good thing. I certainly like it when my Cardinals and Colts win, and when my son’s soccer team wins!
But when it reaches to places like among friends, family members, co-workers, fellow moms and dads, neighbors, and each other, it can become a not-so-good-thing.
This negative kind of competing can come with any age, beginning when we’re young with a, “My dad is better than your dad” kind of mentality. It can carry into adulthood when we either have to own the best, or be the best to feel worthy, important and to “fit in.”
This kind of competing isn’t healthy, and if you’ve experienced it, wouldn’t you agree, it can become daunting and discouraging??
Friend, we aren’t called to compete with one another. We are called to love one another.
Jesus’ words in John 13:34-35:
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Love one another.
Part of loving others is removing the competition between us.
It’s doing what you can to help another, and believing the best in each other.
It’s helping someone else be successful, and rejoicing in his or her successes.
Minus any jealousy and envy.
For many years, I let competing drive me to the point of consuming me. I wanted to be the best and have the best. I had difficulty being genuinely happy for anyone who received something I didn’t. I hung out with jealousy and envy often.
I was one miserable person. I still wonder today how I had any friends!
But over time, God broke me of all that competing and striving. Lesson after difficult lesson.
I’m so thankful He did.
God doesn’t call us to be better than anyone else. He doesn’t even call us to be the best or have the best. He calls us to love Him and love others. He calls us to live to glorify Him and do our best for Him.
It’s quite likely our paths are different. God may very well call me to do something different than He does you. It’s not necessary to compete with each other on our different paths. It makes more sense to love and encourage each other on them, doesn’t it?
We each have beautiful opportunities to do so as we each walk out the journey that’s before us.
- We can encourage a mom who’s feeling weary.
- We can encourage a co-worker who is having a bad day.
- We can celebrate a friend who is following after her dream.
- We can be happy for someone who just received a promotion.
- We can genuinely congratulate a friend whom was just given good news.
- We can appreciate each other’s differences, instead of comparing.
- We can truly love one another the way Jesus encourages us to.
Loving instead of competing.
What a beautiful and freeing way to live!
May God bless you on your journey as you love others in this way!
It’s Day 8 of 31 Days of Loving God & Loving Others. I’d love to read any thoughts on this subject you’d care to share below. Have any experience with this? Is there something you do to love others instead of competing with them?
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