When You Feel Like A “Loser”

by | Jan 28, 2015 | Love Others

“I am such a ‘loser.'”

loser

loser: Ā (slang) a person or thing that fails, especially habitually

Ever said words similar to these about yourself, either aloud or silently?

Plenty of times they’ve taken up residence in my head, and found their way out of my mouth.

They seem to grow arms, legs and an ugly head when voiced out loud.

We know it’s never good to talk negatively about ourselves. We’re aware it’s not God-honoring to put ourselves down. So why do we?

Would I say such a thing if you were standing in front of me?

Would I say such a thing if God was standing in front of me?

Would I say such a thing to a friend?

Uh, no.

Maybe it’s because we forget. Or maybe it’s because we are setting our standards on what the world says we should?

To be the perfect mom, wife, dad, child, whatever. I don’t know about you, but there are times in my day when I just can’t measure up to perfect mom or wife (or employee or friend or anything) for that matter. I am not perfect, no matter how much I try to be. Because I’m not perfect, does that make me a loser?

What about other times? When we do something that’s less than stellar, when we find ourselves in a mess, when our plate is just too full, when we try our best but our best just isn’t good enough, we can begin to talk to ourselves like we’re an enemy. Like we’re awful, scum, and can’t do anything right.

The words may start in our head, and that’s bad enough. But they’ll eventually make it out of our mouths, and that’s even worse.

Am I the only one?

I hope so, but if I’m not alone in this, may we encourage each other here.

God formed us and made us in His image. God didn’t create “losers.” He created masterpieces.

Masterpieces who are unique, special, one-of-a-kind, priceless. Friend, you are a masterpiece. A work of art. His work of art.

You are a masterpieceWe don’t have to be perfect. We just need to be who He made us to be… Priceless.

I thank God for that right there.

So the next time your thoughts go down that winding, terrible road filled with destruction about yourself or something you’ve done, or when those thoughts turn into words that want to spill out of your mouth, stop. Stop and remember Who made you. Stop and remember what a masterpiece you are. Stop and remember you are priceless.

Because you are. Because of Whose you are.

God bless you, O priceless one!

Much love,

Julie

 

Linking up with Meredith & Holley today. Enjoy their blog homes full of encouragement!

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11 Comments

  1. Kathryn Shirey

    Thank you for this tonight – love that it popped in my inbox just when I needed to read it.

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    • Julie Lefebure

      Kathryn, it’s always a joy to see your face here and to read your words. God bless you, sweet friend. I hope to make it over to your place tonight. Finish your week strong! Bless you!

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  2. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    There have been times I’ve been tempted to think of myself as having the big L permanently affixed to my forehead…but I do have an antidote.

    “I’m a loser compared to what, exactly?”

    The world’s trappings of success don’t hold all that much appeal. When i was in academia, I didn’t equate “winning” with tenure, because I had the feeling that a lot of the people who made it there were real bozos, and I didn’t want to be like them.

    As a writer, I know what I want to write, and I think I do it well. If others make more money, good on them, but my worth is not in the sales numbers. I mean, Harold Robbins sold a ton of books, and sure as shootin’ I would not want to be HIM.

    The list goes on, but I think the point is made; I can only be a loser if I hew to society’s definitions. If the world is, as I believe, fallen, why on earth would I want to do that?

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    • Julie Lefebure

      Good points here, Andrew. No big L on our foreheads today! Thanks for making me smile with that!

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  3. Elizabeth Stewart

    I hate it when I hear people I love say this about themselves, and I’m sure God hates it when we say this about ourselves. Happy to be next to you at Holley’s this week!

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    • Julie Lefebure

      Yes, Elizabeth. I don’t like it either. It’s good to remind ourselves who we are and Whose we are, and point others to Him. Thank you for coming by and for sharing. Bless you and the remainder of your week!

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  4. Tiffany

    Julie! God has us be neighbors at Meredith’s this week for a reason – He has us in the same classroom. Embracing who He has made us to be and realizing that that uniqueness isn’t imperfection but purpose. I have that innate drive to strive for perfection and God has really been squeezing it out of me. Related and enjoyed your words today. Blessings to you!

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  5. Tiffany

    Julie! God had us be neighbors at Meredith’s this week for a reason – He has us in the same classroom. Embracing who He has made us to be and realizing that that uniqueness isn’t imperfection but purpose. I have that innate drive to strive for perfection and God has really been squeezing it out of me. Related and enjoyed your words today. Blessings to you!

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    • Julie Lefebure

      Hi Tiffany! I’ll have to bop on over to read your post. Thanks for sharing a bit of it here. You and I must have that same innate drive in striving for perfection. Good for you for allowing Him to squeeze it out of you. He’s working on me as well. It’s a joy to share life together. Praying you are encouraged today in writing and in life. Bless you!

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  6. Meredith Bernard

    It appears we were on the same page this week, friend. šŸ˜‰ I may not say “loser” but I surely think it…way. too. often. What lies we believe! Thank you for this reminder that we are all His beautiful masterpiece and that God never makes mistakes or “losers.” Love you, Julie! And that’s a BEAUTIFUL sunset. <3

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    • Julie Lefebure

      Hi friend. I’m praying for you today. I appreciate you stopping in and sharing your thoughts. You bless me each time you do. It’s a joy to do life with you and to journey on this writing path alongside of you. Keep doing what you’re doing. You are making a difference for Him. Much love to you, Meredith!

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