Do not compare yourself. Find out what God has placed in your ability. –Emmitt Smith
Someone was always prettier, skinnier, more talented.
Someone could always speak clearer, perform better, do more.
Someone had an easier life, a stronger support system, more going for her.
For years I majored in comparing myself to others.
I did it as if it was my job.
It’s no wonder I began to see each woman as “the competition.” My competitive nature thrived on participating in such mind games, out to prove I was better than my “competition.”
Except I rarely won in my mind. I usually fell short.
And falling short led me down a long path which landed me at the destination of an inferior self-image and a messed-up self-worth.
As far as I knew, no one ever realized I played such games in my mind. No one knew I was sizing up myself next to them or another. I don’t believe anyone caught on to my comparison habit.
But I did. And so did God.
He didn’t let me get away with it for too long. He used people, and circumstances of life to open my eyes to the truth. The truth about who He made me to be, who He made others to be, and the truth that life wasn’t meant to be a game of comparisons.
My life was to be about loving God and loving others as I loved myself.
Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ Matthew 22:37-39
It wasn’t an easy lesson to experience, believe me, but it’s one that transformed my life and how I now view others.
God desired more for me, and He desires more for you, too.
I pray you’ve never been caught in this awful trap… the habit of comparing yourself to another. But if you have, or if you’re realizing you’re in the thick of it now, could God possibly be bringing it to your attention? As He did to mine?
A few days ago we celebrated here how each of us is wonderfully made. If God wanted us to be someone else, He would have created us that way. He made each of us unique. Think of your voice, your hair, your eye color, your handwriting, your fingerprints. No one has exactly the same of any of these features as you.
You are incomparable.
You truly are one-of-a-kind. And that, my friend, is something to celebrate!
So why would we feel the need to compare? We’re all in this life together. And when we each play our own part, life becomes a beautiful masterpiece.
There’s no need to compare yourself when you have the fingerprints of your magnificent Creator all over you.
And in case you might need one more reason not to compare yourself, may this serve as another:
For we would never dare to compare ourselves with people who have based their worth on self-commendation. They check themselves against and compare themselves with one another. It just shows that they don’t have any sense! 2 Corinthians 10:12
I’m celebrating and appreciating our incomparable selves today. Won’t you join me??
It’s Day 14 of 31 Days #CelebratingWhoYouAre. I pray you are strengthened and encouraged today to celebrate how incomparable you really are. As always, it’s a blessing to have you here! Linking this post up with Jennifer for #TellHisStory and Holley for Coffee For Your Heart.